7yr old - kiranraja

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The parents of a 7-year-old boy divorce. The boy lives with the mother and sees his father every other weekend.
During these visits, the boy is alternately sullen and angry with the father, but when it is time to return home, he
clings to the father and cries in a desperate manner while saying "I'm sorry! I want you and mom to live together
again." Which of the following is the most helpful statement that the father can make to the son?


A. "Big boys don't cry."

B. "I left your mother, I didn't leave you."

C. "I'll see you in two weeks."

D. "You're the man of the house now."

E. "Your mother was too hard to live with."

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d?

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A

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BBB

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ddd
b could develop thoughts in the boys mind that which parent left the other and who to blame ,which would be inappropriate

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lol, I think (B)

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i think C

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The correct answer is B. This statement from the father would reflect his understanding of the egocentric
nature of school-age children. That is, the child is assuming that he is responsible for the divorce between his
parents. The anger and withdrawal reflect the child's frustration with the situation, but the tears and apology
suggest the child's fear and assumed responsibility for the breakup.

"Big boys don't cry" (choice A) is a demeaning and belittling statement.

"I'll see you in two weeks"(choice C) ignores the child's felt responsibility for the divorce.

"You're the man of the house now" (choice D) places too much responsibility on a 7-year-old child.

"Your mother was too hard to live with" (choice E) places all the blame and responsibility for the divorce on the
parent with whom the boy lives on a daily basis. It ignores the reality that divorce is usually due to difficulties
that both parents have with each other.

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thanks